Friday, August 15, 2008

There Are No Words

I found out today that one of my dear friends in my seniors' group lost her husband on Monday. Heart attack. He was only 66, and he had been just fine. Last Friday she said they planned to clean out their garage over the weekend, his idea.

I looked for a sympathy card, and I finally chose one and will send it. But really, what can you say to someone whose husband just suddenly died, something that isn't a well-worn platitude? I've been thinking about my friend all afternoon; my heart hurts for her.

But I'm also being thankful that DH just had a major physical and everything, everything is "normal." I guess that's a bit selfish of me, but even after only 20 years together, I can't quite imagine life without him.

May the gods help my friend to bear this grief and eventually to be able to re-make a life on her own.


Madame Leiderhosen said...

Oh, man.
From someone's who's been on that other end of horror. There really is nothing to be done, but every expression of love and concern helps.

I am going to think of your post all this weekend, while I pick used floss from between the cushions and dirty glasses while thanking god for every day with my funny fat man, even if he does steal my jokes.

Love to you.

Sarah Laurenson said...

That is very difficult. One of my friends, who was 74, died in the middle of a conversation with her husband. It stunned all of us who knew her.

My dad died at 67, but we knew he was dying for a year and that it would be about a year. Still too young.

Just not losing touch is sometimes the best thing possible.